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Etiquette for Sending Funeral Flowers

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One of the most traditional and heartfelt ways in Singapore to convey sympathy to a bereaving family is by sending funeral flowers. These beautiful floral arrangements not only provide solace to those grieving, but also symbolise deep respect for the departed soul and inject a burst of colour to uplift the spirits of those attending the funeral service. 

However, given the highly sensitive nature of such events, it’s crucial to approach the process of selecting and sending condolence flowers with great care. In this article, we’ll share with you a list of meaningful flowers for funerals, and how you can offer comfort while adhering to sympathy flower etiquette during this challenging period. 

1. Select the Right Flowers

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Funeral flowers serve as a tangible way to express sympathy and provide support to the grieving family. Through the right floral choices, you not only convey your heartfelt condolences, but also add a touch of beauty to the surroundings to help ease the emotional burden for those in mourning. Here are some flowers suitable for bereavement that you can consider: 

  • Lilies: Lilies symbolise innocence and is representative of the soul returning to a place of peace. They are one of the most popular condolence flower choices. 
  • Yellow roses: Yellow roses symbolise friendship and joy, and are usually sent as funeral flowers to convey friendship and support for the grieving family. Friends of the deceased also choose yellow roses to signify their strong ties. 
  • Carnations: Carnations are resilient and long-lasting flowers that symbolise sympathy and grief. They can also represent love and devotion. 
  • White chrysanthemums: In Europe, white chrysanthemums are associated with grief and transient life. They are also commonly used in Asian countries to symbolise bidding farewell while celebrating a life well-lived. Yellow chrysanthemums are also common flowers used for Chinese funerals.
  • Hydrangeas: Hydrangeas symbolise deep sincerity and gratitude, and are used as funeral flowers to convey heartfelt emotions and to express appreciation to the deceased. 

2. Choose the Right Arrangement

Apart from funeral flower selection, the type of floral arrangement you choose should depend on your relationship with the departed or their family, as well as their preferences and cultural considerations. 

  • Casket sprays: Large, elegant floral displays that are placed on top of the casket. You’ll have to discuss this arrangement with the deceased’s family before deciding to order a casket spray for the departed. Opt for classic and subdued colours like white, pastels, or deep reds and purples. 
  • Standing sprays: Also known as funeral flower stands, these are tall, vertical arrangements displayed near the casket or around the funeral venue. 
  • Funeral wreaths: Condolence wreaths are circular arrangements suitable for a wide range of relationships with the deceased, including friends, colleagues, and extended family members. 
  • Bouquets and baskets: Versatile options that can be given by people with different relations with the deceased. They can be delivered to the funeral venue, the family’s home, or used as a centrepiece for a memorial service. 
  • Crosses and religious symbols: For individuals with strong religious beliefs, sympathy flowers can also be arranged into structures that look like religious symbols. These are meaningul and can be displayed prominently to offer condolence and also respect the deceased’s religious practices. For example, a cross structure for a Christian who has passed.

3. Consider Cultural and Religious Customs

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Different cultures and faiths have distinct traditions, beliefs, and preferences when it comes to funerals and the use of flowers. Demonstrating respect for these customs during a period of loss underscores your sensitivity, empathy, and consideration for the values and traditions held dear by the grieving family. Conversely, ignoring or disregarding these cultural customs for flowers can unintentionally cause offense or discomfort to the bereaved. 

4. Timing is Important

It is common to send funeral flowers to the immediate family of the deceased shortly after learning of their passing. They can serve as a source of comfort during the initial stages of grief. 

However, there isn’t a proper timing for sending condolences. Most people would choose to have flowers delivered promptly simply because they can be displayed during the memorial service to contribute to the atmosphere of remembrance and respect. 

Alternatively, you may choose to send condolence flower stands to the family’s home after the funeral to provide ongoing support and comfort to the family. This would be an appropriate gesture for those who are close to the bereaved but not the deceased. 

5. Accompanying Messages

A well-written message has the power to comfort people during a difficult time. Whenever possible, personalise your message to reflect your relationship with the deceased or their family. Mention the name of the deceased and share a fond memory or sentiment. This helps to keep the memory of the deceased alive and encourages the grieving to share positive memories they have about the departed. If appropriate, you can also include a comfort quote or scripture that aligns with the beliefs and values of the family or the deceased. 

Sending funeral flowers is a way to express sympathy, respect, and support during a time of profound loss. With the right flowers and arrangement, you can really help to uplift spirits and offer comfort to the grieving family. 

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